the two types of people in your life you can't forget (and don't want to)
The 2 Types of People In Your Life You Will Never Forget.
After many events taking place during the past two years of my life, I have learned so much. So many that I wouldn't be sble to write them all down for you. In today's post I’ll be looking at the two types of people in your life that you will never forget. I hope you can relate. Let’s get started.
#1. Who Left You In Difficult Times.
As you live your life you’re bound to go through difficult times. In all these times, things happen within you that change. For example, if you loose a loved one chances are you start to appreciate the people that are currently in your life. You become the type of person who is intentional about everything. Because you know loss, and you know regret, and you never want to experience that again. Also during this time, things are changing around you. Specifically I’m talking about the people around you. Over a year ago my mom was diagnosed with cancer. It was the worst day of my life. I can still remember the sick feeling in my stomach when I heard those words. There may be a day I get into that but for now I’m not focusing on her passed illness but on what took place around me. I noticed who was really there for me during that time, and who wasn’t. I noticed by the way people reacted, who I could count on. Who would be there when I needed a friend, or even WORSE….dun DUN DUUUNNN… a ride somewhere. It was eye-opening. You think you know who your friends are. You may even think you know who truly “loves” you, but I was mistaken. Fortunately, the Lord dealt with my heart and I chose to forgive them and move on. At the time, “forgive them and move on” meant something completely different to me than it does now. I’ll touch on that in a little, which leads me to the next type of person you will never forget.
#2. Who Helped You In Difficult Times.
Okay, so this is where it gets good. Like I said before you will come to (if you haven’t already) a point in your life that the laughing car rides, late night Mcdonald’s runs, dance sessions and shopping trips show who your true friends are… which could either be a good thing or a bad thing. I already touched on the bad thing so let’s talk about the good. Using the same example before, I’ll show you the good side to my changing circle of friendships after my mom’s illness. I, of course quickly ran to my support group, my close friends, the people in my corner to share the horrific news. There were a few (very few) who ran back to me with open arms and open hearts. This was by far the best feeling I have ever felt when it comes to friendships. Like I mentioned above, there were only a few who decided to stay, and to my surprise not the ones I thought would. Isn’t it funny how life happens sometimes? I ran to them with everything. My feelings. My anger. My confusion. My need to get away. My questions. My life updates. EVERYTHING. To this day, I look back at that time, and I can count maybe three people still in my life that were there for me then. The rest? Dot, dot, dot. But man, the value of those two individuals increased so much more in my life and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. They are gold.
The Lord had to not only deal with the sickness in my mothers body, but the sickness in my heart. I’m talking about the disease called bitterness. Maybe you’ve heard of it? I also had an epidemic of a cynical spirit. Maybe you’ve managed that? I was focusing on the people I had lost more than the few that stuck around. Like I said, I sacrificed those illnesses to God and I let Him heal me. If you know anything about sicknesses you know that healing can happen (IN JESUS NAME) but you also need to be aware of that part of you that is now vulnerable to a repeat. This is what I mean. Fast forward 1 year and 6 months later, here I am opening myself up to the same people who already showed me that they can’t really handle conflict. But I forgave them right? I moved on right? Well, yeah….BUT. Just like getting over a cold, I’m not gonna be around other people with a cold shortly after I finish my medication. I’m gonna drink a lot of vitamin c, get a lot of rest and surround myself with healthy people. My immune system is still recovering and building itself back up to a stronger and healthier state. In the same way, I shouldn’t have allowed people who gave me a reason to not stay in their life, stay in mine. True forgiveness and freedom is being able to say, “God, what they did hurt me. I am not okay with that. But I don’t want to carry around this pain anymore. I want to learn from this and grow. I don’t want to hold this over them. I want to see them the way you see them. Thank you God for loving me despite all my mistakes. Teach me how to do the same. Teach me how to trust again, love again and open up to the right people again.” Then, you know that in your heart you have forgiven them and you have learned who can value you and who cannot. It’s okay if you’re not best friends again, you don’t have to braid each others hair and have sleepovers again, but it does say in the Bible to be at peace with all men. I have come to learn, being at peace with everyone in my life will be the only way to live a free and happy future. It’s the only way love can make it’s way back into my heart. The only way I can look at the people in my corner and know, it’s till the end. It’s the only way I can trust anyone again. It’s the only way.
I don’t know how people can truly forgive/be at peace with others without Jesus. I know I couldn’t’ do it. I think that it’s so much better to look at those who have hurt you and say, “You hurt me. I forgave you, but I’m well aware of my worth. I’m also aware you are not in a place in your life where you can see my value mine, and that’s okay. I will have people in my life who do.” Wow, that takes maturity and quite frankly, a LOT of Jesus. I’ll leave you with these verses I have held tightly through the up’s and down’s in friendship. I hope they reach you where you need it the most.
- Proverbs 18:24
“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
- Ecclesiastes 4:910
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
- Proverbs 17:17
“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”
- Proverbs 27:17
“A iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
“The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.”
- Psalm 23:4 (my favorite)
“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil. You rod and your staff, they comfort me. Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”
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